If you look in the mirror right now, what do you see? Wrinkles, cellulite, a saggy butt, the last few pounds you've been struggling to loose? Do you love who you see or have you been promising to love her as soon as she measures up? Hey, I've been there. I get it. And every single day, I fight to love who I am now and there is nothing easy about it.
As women, it's like we've been programmed to believe that we should be thin and smooth and hairless and constantly apologizing for or trying to fix our perceived faults. Next time you're scrolling through your social media feed, count the number of ads you see for weight loss, hair removal, and slimming underpants. If it were a drinking game, I'm pretty sure most of us would be under the table before too long.
So how do I do it? How do you do it? How do we love ourselves and our creases and dimples and stretch marks? There are 5 real things you can start doing this very second to shift the narrative and start embracing the body you're in.
Fill your feed with positive vibes. Follow businesses like @letsjoyn and @knixwear who celebrate our beautiful bodies just as they are. And follow influencers like @snacinbus and @curvyhipsandtintedlips who rock their style un-apologetically.
Join groups like my Facebook Pure Romance by Deedre VIP Community that strive to empower and educate women focusing on sexual and mental health and self-care over diet and appearance.
Get a set off dry erase markers for glass and write positive self talk on all your mirrors. It sounds silly, but surrounding yourself with positivity can really start to re-wire your brain. Seeing "I am beautiful and worthy of love" or "I am an unstoppable badass" every time you look at yourself really puts things in perspective.
Imagine your best self and write down a list of all her qualities - the catch, you can't include anything that has to do with weight or appearance. So instead of saying, "My best self is 30 pounds lighter" you could say "My best self has a degree in business" or "My best self doesn't let people put her down". Then make an action plan. What tangible things can you start doing today to make sure you show up as your best self?
Dress for yourself. If you love sparkly eye shadow and wild pink leggings - wear them! If you crave the comfort of a flannel tee and the perfect pair of jeans - rock it girl. You do you and to hell with what anyone else thinks. And the next time you look in the mirror, number 3 will be there to remind you of just how awesome you really are.
I'm an entrepreneur, educator, blogger, and Pure Romance Consultant breaking through stigmas and helping women find their voice.